fly boy3 Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 Due to a devastating bereavement, I cannot make a start on covering my latest model. Any tips on regaining my mojo. The worst part of this is that I promised my late wife that I would complete and rename the model in my her honour. I love building and have completed many many Winter builds. I,m trying hard but I just need a kick start. Cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cliff Bastow Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 So sorry to hear of your loss Fly Boy. Nothing I can say will make it easier for you. I lost my Dad recently so I understand a little of what you are going through. All I can offer is stick in there, it does get easier and you will get your mojo back, it just takes time. All the best for 2020. Cliff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Peter Miller Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 I went through that quite a long time ago. I would suggest that you don't try and force yourself to do anything just yet. Think about your model look at things but don't try and rush it. Then when you first start feeling that you want to do something modelingwise build something small and simple just to get into the building mood again. You will then start to feel like modelling again and you will find that at that stage modelling will be a great help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martin collins 1 Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 Sorry for your loss fly boy, what model is it, do you have any pictures, perhaps others on here have built that model and can post pictures of theirs to give you encouragement. Even if you do a small amount each day once you can see it moving forward it may encourage you to go on and finish it, Once done it will be an achievement to see that you have done what you promised your wife and it has her name on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Fry Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 If you can't face it, the time is not right yet. But when the time comes, do a bit every day. One day might be half a rudder. It's worth doing half a rudder. The discipline of a regular work input gets the habit going again. And gets it finished. This is already part of your character. All builders walk away from a disaster with a "whatever" thought. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nigel R Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Our little toys are but nothing compared to the people in our lives. When you feel ready the hobby will always be waiting for you. It will be a tonic for you when you need it. All the best fly boy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wingcoax Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Flyboy, I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my wife just before christmas a few years ago and she understood what model flying meant to me. I persevered and became the club chairman and chief instructor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Geezer Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Fly Boy - there aren't words that will console you to your loss - you need time, time on your own to reflect, time to grieve, time to remember and smile. Walking helps, truly it does. Then, eventually you will feel you need to get that plane covered, it is unfortunate that at the moment the covering job and your late wife's association with the task are so intimately associated - but one day when your feelings aren't so raw - do it for her. It has been suggested to me that the concentration that both the tasks of building and flying ( and covering ) require a considerable amount of concentration, to the extent that there is very little room in your head for extraneous thoughts - which is what some folk would describe as a form of mindfulness - and that can only be helpful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dale Bradly Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 Condolences Fly Boy, Let me share a not dissimilar story: A couple of years ago i was working on a Sagitta glider kit, which had stalled at about the covering stage for a short time due to the usual everything getting in the way. This was coupled by losing my mother to breast cancer (63). Again, other priorities but a couple of months later after I went out to the shed, and just started tinkering. Next thing I had the covering iron out, and had it done quick as anything. The colours were inspired by the local Breast Cancer charity's colours/logo and kinda just happened without too much thought about it and it's probably the best iron-on job I've ever done. Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrew Calcutt Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 All the best at a very difficult time,especially at this time,hope you feel better and the weather will be better that may help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Braddock, VC Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 You've not lost your mojo, you've lost the part of your life that can never return. Somewhere down the line you'll get back into modelling but don't dwell on it. When you're ready it'll pop up out of nowhere. If you listened to the Primate of the CofE he recommends volunteering for an organisation, I guess you're ex FAA; there must be an association for it and I'd either join it or, if already a member, devote more time to it. It won't replace your loved one but it will surely take your mind off of things and the companionship will re-motivate you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ken anderson. Posted January 1, 2020 Share Posted January 1, 2020 happy new year FB3,i imagine that your world as you knew it will have turned upside down. After a while I would do what the little lass asked, finish the model and fly it in her memory...take care. ken anderson..ne..1...FB3 dept. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris Freeman 3 Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Sorry for your loss Fly Boy, Life has its challenges but we do need to continue living and doing the best that we can. 6 years ago we lost our house and 2 dogs in a fire. We had nothing and it was very tough but 6 years on you would not beleive just how much we have recovered. Take time to grieve but do not allow the loss to take control of your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Cotsford Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Flyboy, you have my sympathy. When I lost my other half it put me out of the game for 3 or 4 years. I found new interests were easier to invest myself in as there was no emotional connection. I'd stopped riding bikes before meeting Ruth but during her last year we'd talked about getting one as Fran had gone off to Uni, so after a spell I bought myself a second hand Yamaha XS750 to occupy my time and to get me out of the house. In my case within 12 months I also had redundancy to take my mind of my loss. In time I dug out my modelling gear and found I could enjoy the memories it bought back without the sharp pain taking over. Chris, unlike losing a house bereavement isn't something you can just deal with and move on. It isn't a reasonable comparison. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David Davis Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Sorry for your loss Flyboy. I lost the love of my life over 25 years ago. I consoled myself by throwing myself into my work. I was fortunate enought to have a purposeful sort of work at the time. In time I gained further qualifications, got out the motorbike when the weather was good and continued all alone through redundancy and the deaths of the older generation within my family until I reached state retirement age. Still all alone, I retired to rural France in 2015 but on 12th January 2019, two pairs of eyes met across a crowded library and life has never been the same again. Things have a way of working out Flyboy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly boy3 Posted January 2, 2020 Author Share Posted January 2, 2020 Hi all, thank you for all the help you have given to me in this thread, and I have saved it all, as it will be read and re read many times in the future. The info has been given from the heart as it seems you have all been through it, and managed it in many different ways. My apologies if I have upset anyone by bringing back precious but emotional memories. It has given me the kick start I needed, and I have actually made a start on the covering. As mentioned a little at a time, so I have given myself four months to complete covering to coincide with a special birthday. The model is called Flying Aces Sportster. If I can remember how to load pics I can show you the naked model. Thank you all my friends. FB3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Low pass Pete Posted January 3, 2020 Share Posted January 3, 2020 Please keep in touch Fly-boy3. I have just seen this thread and all the replies make one realise how precious our loved ones are. Remember that the best way to eat an Elephant is one bite at a time. Take care and all the best for the New Year. Best Wishes Peter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cymaz Posted January 5, 2020 Share Posted January 5, 2020 FB3, take care and thinking of you at this difficult time Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piers Bowlan Posted January 5, 2020 Share Posted January 5, 2020 Flying Aces Sportster, a lovely model which will give you a lot of pleasure when it is resplendent in it's covering. Well done FB3, we are all rooting for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ian Jones Posted January 27, 2020 Share Posted January 27, 2020 You have got to finish it and show it flying... just for me as I sob quietly. Due to a mains waterburst, on the path outside my home, water flooded into my garage. The only fatality was my Sportster due to water getting into the wing roots. No wings, no fly! Waiting for United Utilities to pay out but no amount of money is going to make good on my loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly boy3 Posted January 28, 2020 Author Share Posted January 28, 2020 I will do my best for you Ian. Wings etc already covered, fus and tail next. Cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sticky fingers Posted January 28, 2020 Share Posted January 28, 2020 fly boy 3 m, condolences on your loss , one day at a time, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fly boy3 Posted January 29, 2020 Author Share Posted January 29, 2020 Update on F.A.Sportster, as previously mentioned, the wings etc, wing servos completed. A slight problem has occurred. I am very close to using my covering all up. It's HK product, colour "Jasinth" . Checked out HK just in case, but found its a discontinued product. Ah well, whose going to notice a slight colour change 200 ft up in the air lol. Hope they don't discontinue orange. Cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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